December 2, 2006
Malaysian Housewife in London wrote:
It seems that to this man, without one’s husband, a woman is a non-entity. This is the type of man who takes it for granted that the woman of the house will provide the drinks and food – it’s her job (not unlike a maid’s) - and therefore it is not necessary to acknowledge the woman and say ‘thank you’ or at least, the malays like to say ‘susah susah je..’ (you needn’t trouble yourself) ..and then, without even blinking an eye, the man goes on to consume the food served.
My husband defended his conclusion by saying that, most Malay men, when confronted with a Malay woman will feel that way; they’re not completely at ease, they just feel like they need to keep their distance a bit so as to not be ‘over-doing it’ because most Malay women will not ‘welcome’ any extra attention. Basically, they just don’t feel ‘free’ enough to chat or speak to a Malay woman in fear of trampling on certain ‘barriers’. On top of that, he says that most Malay men find it easier to speak with women of the other races because that ‘barrier’ is not there.
What the heck?!
maybe he’s just shy?Trackback